Personal happiness and life balance do not necessarily have to depend on being successful and earning more money. There are other things with much bigger impacts on our lives than just success in business or work.
‘Life-stage’ and our age are some of the things that affect our personal life and happiness. They make us balanced and happy. However, there is another thing that affects our life balance and happiness. Our habits and life mistakes have a strong influence on our happiness and personal development. And let us be fair and honest to ourselves, we have all made life mistakes!
One habit I have managed to get out of recently is leaping out of bed when I first awake to rush down and look at emails and messages at the start of the day. Now, I take time and stay in bed to meditate about my day to come and to clean my chakras. Its made a big difference to how I approach my day now, and I love it!
If your habits are affecting the quality of life you are living, personal development and overall happiness, here are some tips that can help you break out of repeated mistakes/habit and make changes to your life for happiness and development purposes. How do you break from a negative pattern?
First, notice the repeated habits pattern
Maybe you engage in endless cycles of bad habits that leave you feeling guilty and overreacting. The challenge with bad habits, they can turn into a negative pattern. The negative pattern is unconscious. However, learning how to train our minds to recognize the bad habits and patterns by paying attention to the emotions and pain we feel, makes us notice the bad habits and ask ourselves why.
Know the cause
Noticing our bad habits and failing to know what causes the bad habits won’t help much. We cannot face the reality if we keep returning to the same habits, hoping that thing will be different. If we don’t know what causes our bad habits, we are doomed to repeat the same mistake, and this affects our personal development and happiness. The saying goes, “if you always do what you always did, you’ll get what you always got”.
Face your fear and exercise your willpower
It’s not easy to face your fear even if you know what your bad habits are and what causes them. That’s the only way you can conquer your repeated habits is facing them. Don’t dismiss them, face them. Start by picking a new destination and start exercising your willpower, use it to start the change process for personal development, life balance and overall happiness. I like using the acronym, FEAR: Face Everything And Respond.
Refine your goals
Continue the process of breaking from your repeated pattern by setting new goals. Set goals that will help you reach higher purposes and something that will help you go beyond what you expect to do.
Believe in yourself
We can’t achieve much by losing confidence in what we can do. You have to believe in your capabilities and possibilities. Believe that tomorrow will be better than today when it comes to exercising what is right. There isn’t a skill that you can learn without believing.
Manage your environment
The use of technology has influenced the way we are working nowadays, but it can also cause harm to the way we live and the habits we develop. Technology can also affect our personal development. It is fine to use things like mobile phones, emails, laptops and even social media network. However, you need to be wary of what you do and how it affects your habits. If technology affects your repeated habits and pattern, it’s better to learn to manage your environment to avoid relapse.
Forgiveness clears the residue of the past and opens up a way to the future. Until you are able to forgive yourself for the bad habits, you won’t stop yourself from repeating them. When you forgive yourself, your mind becomes clear of shame and guilt and you will be ready to move forward.
Manage others expectation and demands
We often find ourselves engaging in either negative or positive habits to fulfill the expectations and views of other people. Other peoples’ demands and expectations affect us emotionally and time resources which are significant to change, life balance, personal development, and happiness. You need to manage peoples’ expectations on you and focused on the changes you want to make.
Construct a self-based new approach to life
Life changes fast. Beliefs and conventions of the past may not make sense in the present and future. If you want to change your negative habits and be on your way the personal development and happiness, you need a rethink, plan and construct your own goal. Make sure you challenge what other people imposed on you.
Finally, when you know what you are doing now, what we’ve always done and what you need to change, stop in the moment and ask yourself what are you going to do next and why? After you have the answers, focused on the present and fight what is right.
So, there you are, some ideas to move away from repeated poor or unwanted habits. Hope some if not all work for you!
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