Us humans can be odd; we pick up on sentiment and we dwell in a bizarre cocktail of conflicting emotions - for a lot of our time.
These very same emotions further fuel and drive our daily actions. In fact, as calm and logical as you may perceive yourself to be, a vast majority of your everyday actions and decisions are a product of some sort of emotion or another.
For instance, if you go forward with a particularly difficult decision in your professional life, you may have been driven by feelings of competitiveness, or an urge to excel and succeed within your workplace. More often than not, such emotions are widely regarded as some cold by-products of an unflinching individual; although they are as human and valid as any other emotion a person is capable of expressing.
However, not every emotion is capable of producing a beneficial, positive result; jealousy may fracture relationships and resentment may hinder financial progression.
That is the power of emotions, and how they affect those around you. Don't forget, your positive aura may very well improve your personal and professional relationships, and benefit those around you. Never forget that others can grow from your rejuvenated spirituality as well.
Given that we, as humans, take emotional and physical cues from one another in order to act, it would be a good idea for me to highlight some ways that you can lay down the very same cues to cultivate an aura of positivity, confidence, love and total acceptance surrounding you!
Practicing higher levels of gratitude, according to a study carried out by Robert A Emmons, enables individuals to maintain consistently normal levels of mental health. When practicing gratitude, one actively strives to eliminate negative emotion and ill-will entirely from our lives. Harmful emotions such as resentment and envy have the power to release toxic brain chemicals and hormones.
For example if your brain releases serotonin, dopamine or oxytocin, you will feel good and happy. Conversely, if your body releases cortisol while you are stressed or unhappy, you will have an entirely different feeling associated more with the body kicking into survival mode. Stress can feed on stress!
A second study noted that individuals practicing gratitude were mindful of their physical health; as a result, they were more likely than others to visit the doctor for regular checkups, eat clean, and exercise more often. However, visiting doctors is not necessarily the way forward here, as often enough, your body will tell you what you need!
Quite apart from a wholesomely grateful attitude encouraging sharper mental performance, and a documented reduction in levels of stress and anxiety, regularly practicing gratitude allows those around you to benefit impressively as well.
You will nurture an air of acceptance, tolerance, and forgiveness around yourself, and motivate others to do the same. In avoiding ill-intentioned manipulation, and steering clear from feelings of bitterness and jealousy, your relationships with others will strengthen, and the levels of mutual appreciation amongst you will grow.
Standing up for others
A compassionate individual will work towards creating an aura – and world – which values love and tolerance. Standing up for the basic human rights of others will provide you with a cause to fight for, and communicate your ethics and stance vividly clear to those around you.
As such, any individuals tending to disagree with your worldviews will exit your life naturally, and you will be able to surround yourself with a positively stimulating environment.
If you believe someone in your life has been treated unjustly, or if any individual deserves recognition and respect – do not be afraid to speak out on their behalf. Not only will you pick up the infinitely valuable lesson of defending those without privilege, but the ones you defend and advocate will be able to respect you, and follow from your example.
Create a chain of good-intentioned advocacy, and eliminate all the prejudiced voices from the space around you. Your position and confidence as a leader, influencer, and defender will enable you to take on even the greater personal obstacles in life.
Eternally striving for betterment
A crucial element towards self-improvement is understanding which is a never-ending process. I am sure that I will reach the age of 99 and still pick up invaluable lessons in trust, tolerance, and positivity as I continue to walk my path!
As such, allow your mind to open to both fresh and conflicting ideas; impartiality is a trait very few possess, and may take decades to master. Begin to place the cornerstones as soon as you possibly can, and understand the importance both sides of a story carry before arriving at a conclusion.
Your journey towards personal growth may never be complete, and this openness to new ideas, concepts, beliefs, and challenges is what will ultimately inspire those around you to follow suit. Furthermore, if you encourage an environment around you which preaches acceptance, people will be able to approach you for voicing and counsel without fear of judgment. This provides you with every chance to directly improve and assist those around you in whichever ways you can.
The ability to bounce back
The truth can be bitter, but it is the truth: rejection leaves a lasting impression on your ego and motivation. Perhaps you were rejected by a dream college; maybe you did not receive that promotion you worked tirelessly towards; the scenarios are endless, and life may continue to relentlessly offer you disappointments and rejections on a silver platter. The trick is in handling both correctly.
Fully allow yourself to process rejection to the best of your abilities. Do not attempt to stifle a human response. If you prefer to marathon movies, and eat ice-cream out of a container, give yourself the liberty – and time – to do so.
If you unerringly believe in the power of the universe, and a greater spirituality – you will understand that only one of countless options was eliminated for you. Pick yourself up, and remind yourself that there is no success without rejection. Handle your losses with grace, and approach the situation once more with a more experienced mind and voice.
Those around you will pick up on your inspiring traits of perseverance, and may even help you in any way they can towards your journey of achieving your goals.
An anonymous individual once aptly stated, “A New Year does not come pre-packed and assembled with achievements.” Part and parcel of every human individual’s daily experience involves overcoming prejudice and obstacles, and emerging as a just, confident, and compassionate human being afterwards. Simply crossing a handful of barriers and shattering glass ceilings do not yield much without the experience impacting the individual behind it positively. So, if your 2017 goals involve self-improvement and productive problem-tackling, take a look into how your renewed positivity can potentially impact those around you.
In this digital era, people really seem to be more connected to each other. Yet, though we seem to be connected to one another, are we becoming more lonely and discontent with ourselves?
Many people believe that surrounding themselves with more people, having an intimate relationship and pilling up Facebook, Twitter or Instagram friends is the only way of fighting off periods of loneliness and to being happy.
There is no recipe for your contentment and loneliness other than engaging with yourself, knowing who you are and accepting you are who you are. The earlier you accept this in life and move with it, the easier and sweeter your life shall be. However, this cannot be developed without you learning how to be well on your own.
Well, do you know yourself perfectly well? Are you ready to find out? Where should you start?
It is perfectly fine to know that your heart wants to help you have the connection with your inner self.
It’s completely acceptable for you to ‘tune out’ from the rest of the world so that you can build a complete connection with your soul without any distractions. Remarkably in some ways, solitude for people is very uncommon, but it’s fine, so try it. I had a go for a 21 day period on my own on Dartmoor. In a few months time I will be repeating a solitude period for 40 days this time. Why? Because time alone teaches me more about myself.
Wanting to be alone is not about denouncing the world, rather you could use that chance to have a deeper engagement with yourself, and with your world in such a way that it brings you closer to wisdom, well-being, and wholeness.
Right now, we are pulled in so many different directions or distracted by so many things that we are so busy and never slowing down and going deep into our heart connections to see what our better, genuine self is. We seem to make everything else more important than what matters to us. The result is we lack a real connection with our inner selves, and essentially miss out on our true purpose in life.
So, embrace solitude. By embracing solitude, you will discover the many opportunities it offers you, including creative nurturing, self-realization, independent travel, psychological healing, improved relationships, improved mental attitude and spiritual exploration among others. All these things are vital for you to know yourself inside out and to have a meaningful life.
I do need to say, that you do not have to go off somewhere for long periods of time, although that is good to do if you have the opportunity. Taking a day away from your friends, partner, children and home can achieve the same results, albeit more slowly.
Your Mental Attitude as the Key!
We are all beings of thought, meaning our mental attitude determines our condition in life. So if your mental attitude is genuinely lovable and peaceable, blessedness and bliss will follow you. On the flip side, if you put limitations on your nature, you create the boundary lines around your mental attitude and thoughts. They will be like self-erected fences that draw you to a narrower circle hemmed in by doubt, anxiety and pessimism.
You are the thinker of your thoughts as much as you are also the maker of them. Generally speaking, out of ill-will comes disaster and grief and out of good will come, healing and reparation. There are no accidents in your mental attitude, both its antagonism and harmonies are the responsive echoes of what your thoughts are all about. What you think appears in your life (some people refer to this as The Law of Attraction).
How to Alter Your Mental Attitude
As you think of doing something, remember you are today where your thoughts brought you, but you can be tomorrow somewhere different according to where you allow your thoughts to take you.
You cannot escape the results of your mental attitude, but you can endure, learn, accept, be glad and alter your thoughts. Strive to perceive the grandeur and vastness of your responsibility to alter your mental attitude. People will remain ignorant simply because they love ignorance.
You are not powerless. You are powerful to obey or disobey, strong to be pure or impure, ready for wisdom or ignorance, but if you love knowledge, wisdom and purity, you will obtain it by altering your thoughts. Your mental attitude waits to connect with yourself and is your acceptance and what your thoughts entertain. When you understand the law of your mind, you will attain a strong mental attitude and cease seeing yourself as an impotent blind tool.
Do you look at someone and wonder what is going on in their mind and heart? Well, this is the kind of question you need to ask yourself each day, especially as you are on a spiritual path.
Many people are unable to read their feelings, manage their emotions or even create an emotionally rich relationship. We can lack the emotional intelligence that acts as a connection to our spiritual being which prevents us from exploring the farthest reaches of the universe.
We take pride in monitoring our body appearance by keeping fit to increase our physical energy and eat well, yet when it comes to tapping our spiritual energy source, we come out empty. Getting to know who we are inside out involves getting in touch with our spirituality and embracing it.
So, what now?
Getting to know yourself includes getting to know your personality, core values, body, dreams, likes and dislikes and fears. A great way that I got to know these things was by embracing solitude, altering my mental attitude and embracing my spirituality. This will allow you to tap into your well of happiness beyond your imagination even on cloudy days. So, take a peek under that mask you wear and see the real you, the real beauty!
Would you like to go to bed every night promising yourself that you will wake up feeling pretty good and reasonably successful? Do you remind yourself of the great things happening to you and how grateful you should be for being alive?
Then when morning comes, as it always does, you wake up filled with anxiety and dread. A dozen terrible thoughts run through your head and you literally feel lazy from the weight of thoughts.
Waking up feeling well-rested and energized can seem next to impossible especially for night owls. If you have trouble getting up feeling energized, you need to find a way of managing yourself to get a full 8 hours night sleep and work up energized in the morning. Try these simple daily tips that include reflection, affirmation and motivation to start your day feeling more energized. They will help you get off to a great start to the day.
Don’t use the snooze button
There is nothing worse than the sound of alarm waking you up in the morning, so avoid subjecting yourself to awful alarm multiple noises. Hitting the snooze button allows you some few minutes in bed, but your brain knows you have precious little time in bed, so your sleep won’t be restful. So, set off the alarm with the first ring, wake up and get out of bed. This way you will feel less tired and energized.
Meditation and self-reflection
After waking up, the first morning ritual for success is meditation. This includes sitting comfortably in a quiet place for up to 30 minutes. Observe quietly your thoughts or concentrate on the movement of your breath. This allows you to be still and mindful of your thoughts and breathes of the moment. Meditation can also be used as a time for self-reflection and gratitude. Incorporating meditation and self-reflection in your morning routine can relieve stress, enhance mindful self-awareness, and improve concentration during the day.
Get a dose of sunlight
There is a reason why the sun rises and shines in the morning. It welcomes the day and the warm to all that see it. It sends a message to your internal clock that it’s time to be awake and energized. Open your curtains, let the sun in while you are meditating or self-reflecting or even having breakfast. During winter and rainy months, consider using a light therapy box, they tend to mimic outdoor light. Then get ready for an energized and motivated day ahead.
Listen to music for motivation
Some studies have found that listening to your favorite music helps your brain release a significant amount of dopamine. These hormones cause the brain to light up and you end up feeling more alert and motivated. Consider making your favorite music an alarm tone, you can’t wake up completely painless, but at least it’s a source of motivation instead of an awful default tone.
Engage in some physical activity
The most common morning motivation comes in a form of exercise. So if you can wake up early enough to exercise before going to work. It adds more power to you and will keep you up, inspired and motivated. Partaking in routine exercises in the morning, will help you improve your energy, promote emotional we-being, enhance mental alertness and concentration. It should not feel like a burden, just involve some, stretching, yoga or short cardio workouts.
Affirmation typically involves repeating phrases or words that send specific instructions to your brain and body. Theses instruction act as commands that help your direct your decisions and thoughts. Make sure then that your affirmations are tied with very specific to be taken throughout the day. The actions must be built upon habits, beliefs, and attitude that helps you to complete or accomplish your goals. Repeat your affirmation in the morning first, then throughout the day and stay focused on your important actions. Just a simple “today is going to be my best day ever” or “I love being alive!” will make all the difference.
Have a good breakfast
Don’t skip this. It is the most important meal of your day, even if you don’t feel hungry, eat a healthy breakfast. It will help you feel energized all day. Avoid anything that has unsaturated fat, potassium and magnesium because they will make you feel sleepy again.
These seven rituals will lay a successful foundation for an empowering morning routine that will leave you feeling motivated throughout the day. Incorporate any of them into your morning schedule by picking out what works best for you and start there, then finally shift towards making a different set of choices that will lead you towards energize and inspired life.
How to Find Calm Right Now
The New Year is here and with it, great promise for the future. Or is it?
Have you made your New Year’s resolutions yet? Right around the end of the year (or the beginning of a new year), people create their lists of vows to stop bad habits and start positive ones. Individuals have long embarked on the quest for self-improvement at the beginning of each New Year to varying degrees of success. You may have even set some for yourself in years past.
However, even in the few days after January 1st those optimistic self promises may start to dim as you: a) return to work, b) look at your bank balance following the spending spree of Christmas and c) realise that the goal(s) you set yourself actually requires a certain amount of hard work – consistently. What happens? You get depressed and stressed and the targets you set yourself crumble away into dust.
How can one actively seek solace in this environment?
How do you shrug off the stress? Its not easy but there are things you can do for yourself.
If you find yourself worried, nervous, and a bit ‘off’, here are some suggestions on how you can create a little calm in the storm right now and use these ideas in the future too.
What about trying out these things?
By taking a moment to step out of the stress and perhaps reboot our minds, we can exert calm back into our day and move on – productive and happy.