Whats behind the mirror?
When we look into a mirror we think that the image we have before us is accurate. However, just move an inch and the image changes. We are looking, in fact, towards an endless range of reflections, different hues, angles, heights. They are all of us, but something lurks behind the image that grabs our attention for most of the time that we spend looking at it.
We see a mental representation of ourselves, it is not however, a reflection of reality, but a projection of our own fantasies about what other people will think of our body. In the mirror many things can alter our perception.
Normally this projection is full of judgment and criticism. It is hard to find someone in full harmony with the image itself, for most there is always something that can be improved, repaired, modified and changed. This happens because we are immersed in a culture that always projects and champions a beauty ‘model’ to be achieved, both for women and for men. As we are so used to pursuing this model, before the mirror, our attention is directed more to what we lack, our flaws and our imperfections, than to our positive qualities. Again, this is the way society would have us look and question ourselves more about the weaker characteristics that we might have rather than the stronger ones that we most certainly do have. Getting beyond that paradigm of ourselves can sometimes be very tricky.
The true us, warts and all, is reflected in the mirror that we look at and the ability to be honest with ourselves to say, I am perfect just the way I am. This is the struggle that entertains many of us every day when we look into the mirror. Being perfect just the way we are can be a difficult realization to come to terms with, and the reality sometimes can be very obscure and puzzling. We are so used to seeing ‘glamour’ models in the press, on TV, looking down at us from posters, in fact almost everywhere we look. It is difficult to escape these images unless you happen to live on a deserted island with no one else! And with that difficulty comes the struggle with our inner mind, which shouts out ‘I can be like that’. Guess what – you cannot be like that, and what’s more there is absolutely no need for you to be like that.
It is the other side of that mirror that the truth awaits us – if we allow ourselves to truly see and think. The main thing is to put firmly into your conscious state when you look in the mirror, that you are totally perfect the way you are. There maybe some aspects that you wish to change but that is a choice that you can take or not. It is your choice and must not be driven by what you see on those posters or on TV advertisements. Be happy with what you see, and never think that you can be better (in other peoples minds) with what you already have. The real you is the best you!