What is love? Have you ever felt that you are getting really attracted towards something or someone? Their presence makes you feel good. No matter how much miserable your day is, seeing their face or thinking about them makes you feel better. You want to spend most of your time with that person or that thing. You’ve got strongly attached to that thing. That is love. It is a feeling that cannot be described in words.
Nowadays we are getting much too busy in our daily routine. We wake up, get dressed, go to the work and come back home tired. We wait for weekends to enjoy and have fun. What is the purpose of our life if we are just waiting for weekends to have a good time? We are not living our life we are just passing it.
The reason is that we don’t see beauty in everything around us. We always crave for love and affection but we don’t pay attention to people and things giving us love. We are too busy in a race and we sometimes don't even where we are heading.
Sometimes you are so low that nothing you think can cheer you up. Everything looks dull and boring. You are really disappointed in people and things. Finding love in that state is not even difficult but seems impossible.
But it is not true. There is nothing we cannot do. We are the boss of our mental abilities. It may be difficult to love something but it’s not impossible. You can always find joy and love in even the simplest things of life like tea or coffee. It’s not just the taste that makes you happy but it's also the love of that particular thing. Even a small thing like tea can cheer you up if you allow your mind to find love and peace in it.
You can find love anywhere anytime. Let’s just take an example.
It’s a hot summer day. You are really busy in the office. You are not in a good mood. You take a break and go outside. You see a garden with fresh and beautiful flowers. The fragrance and the beauty of the flowers are making your mood better. The flowers love you. It’s nature love for you. It is up to you that whether you remain irritated or you enjoy little things like flowers and find love from them.
A few years ago I was rowing across the English Channel with my two sons from Mont St Michel in France to St Michaels Mount in England. It was a pretty difficult crossing with massive tides pulling and pushing us, huge tankers to avoid in the main channel and cold blustery conditions. To make matters worse we were also affected by sickness. Everything looked and felt grim.
Then, on the third day we came through dawn and into a magical ‘half light’ period where the sea appeared glassy and silky. To our amazement a large (15 foot) pilot whale came up alongside us for about 10 ten minutes or so, inquisitive, playful, beautiful. The sight of that reminded us all that despite what might appear to be a grim situation, there is beauty all around us, all the time...
The optimistic thinking is one of the main factors in finding love in everything. Optimism means that you find positiveness in everything that is happening in your life, for example, if you lose a job. It would definitely be a sad/depressing thing for you. But if you think positively, you may come to a realization that the job was not suitable for you. Losing it is giving you a chance to find another job that is more suitable for you. This optimism is the first step in reshaping your mind to find love in every single thing of the universe.
When that optimism is adopted by you, you can face any problem literally any problem with a smile on your face. That will allow your mind to look deeply and closely in things around you. You’ll be able to create the sense of spirituality in you. It is the sense of looking and focusing on life and finding its meaning.
We are sent here for some purpose. Our purpose is not to just wake up and follow our daily routine. It is far beyond than that. God/Source has created us to look deeper into nature and find our identity. When we focus on positive things and start loving things we find this purpose. Love is the ultimate factor of this life.
So, in order to live a happy life, we must always love ourselves (but should not be a narcissist) and love everything around us. We must focus on positive things and avoid negative things. Even if negative things start ruling over our life we must always find something positive in those things and don’t let the negativity of this world ruin our inner tranquility.