This week I have been moving house, helping to continue build a house, working on potential leads for the future and all the while trying to remain sane!
Sound familiar? There’s a lot going on in our lives, and every now and then we need to remind ourselves to ‘calm’. I also like to get inspiration from others around me.
During these times, sometimes we all need a little push to give us more energy to move forward, to move past the obstacles and to be ready for the challenges that life throws our way.
I like to remind myself of what would appear to be obvious statements but are so good at ‘calming’ ourselves:
1) The best is yet to come.
Our present isn’t our future. The only fundamental law in nature is change. If things aren’t looking good now, don’t worry! It will change. Just hold yourself up and breathe.
2) Bad things can lead to good things.
It is our perception that creates negative realities in our head. The truth is, the universe is indifferent. You never know what good can come out of a bad experience.
3) Keep moving
Life moves on. If you feel like you are in a bad relationship, move. If you hate your job, quit. You do have choices. Sometimes it just takes courage to accept that you’re not happy and move.
4) Let go of the past
No matter how bad the past may have been, it is still an illusion. Now is all that exists. If you keep thinking about the past and regretting things, you will never be able to move on and live in the present moment. Learn the lessons from the past and start again.
5) It’s probably not meant for you.
No matter how much hard work you put in, you can’t control everything. Sometimes acceptance is necessary in life because everything won’t turn out the way you want it to be. Move on and realize that there are always other opportunities waiting for you.
6) Remember who you are.
Our lives get so busy, we often forget who we truly are. Sometimes you need to take a break to gather your thoughts and clear your mind.
7) Mingle with the young.
We think we’re so rational and practical but we often misinterpret the simplicity of life. Life is about having fun and making the most of the present moment.
You do not need arguments or pointless conversations. We can often learn more by listening to understand rather than by listening to reply. I teach communication skills for leaders, and I often refer to the ‘cosmetic’ listening level, where the recipient is not listening at all. They are there in front of you only for show. Do not be a cosmetic listener.
9) Listen to your heart.
Overthinking often leads to hesitation and anger. It’s better to switch off and get in touch with what you truly feel is important in life. Forget about judgments and talk to yourself. The heart is the best place to start, and is the one place I will always go to first when under pressure. What does your heart say to you?
10) No need to figure out everything.
So many of us don’t progress in life because the perfect opportunity doesn’t present itself. The truth is, nothing is ever perfect. Sometimes you just need to move on, no matter if it isn’t perfect.
11) Don’t stop believing.
Hope is the most powerful emotion we have. If we aren’t optimistic that the future will be better, then it likely won’t be. Give yourself hope that things will change for the better, they will!